Welcome to this week’s edition of Sunday School Lessons for Engaged Couples – the groom’s edition. Today, we have a guest writer, Mr. Celebrate aka my husband. Enjoy!
Today is one of America’s most anticipated sports event – the Super Bowl. The Super Bowl attracts millions of people each year, both fans and spectators. As I reflect back some years ago, I too anticipated one of the biggest events of my life, the holy matrimony that united me to my bride, Mrs. Lady Celebrate.
Contrary to popular belief, most grooms don’t just want to show up and get it over, we grooms know the anticipated moment of marrying the love of our life involves more than showing up. So Brides, yes, we’ll surrender to the fact that this is your day; but understand this day would not happen if it were not for us – the groom. As guest writer to Lady Celebrate’s Sunday School lesson, I, Mr. Celebrate want to give you some insight into the groom’s mentality to help you to “Think Like A Groom”.
- Emotions –vs- Practicality. Ladies, this is not earth-shaking to you when I say we are simple, practical and logical beings. While you experience the full range of emotions that are typical from the excitement of getting engaged, we as grooms are already thinking “how, when and where.” You would be happy to know that most of us are not thinking “why”. The why was answered when we decided to buy the ring. So if you want your fiancé to mirror the same level of excitement you demonstrate, that isn’t going to happen, we’re not built that way. Yes, we are excited, but know that we have already moved to the next stage. So never question the groom’s emotional reaction. Believe me, he is in it as much as you; it just will not be so apparent. So let’s explore what’s going on in the groom’s world on that next stage.
- Yep, that’s it! Remember I told you we men are simple, logical and practical beings. While you are on the phone calling, texting and sending pictures of your ring to your friends and family, we have already started to calculate the costs of the overall event. And here is a big shocker, yes, we are including the cost of that gorgeous ring too. We like identifiable beginning and end points. So from the purchase of the ring to the debarkation of the honeymoon, this is the window of costs we calculate in our little itty bitty minds to determine “how much is this going to cost me”. Brides, understand we believe it’s about making finances work to give you what you want, this is our obligatory responsibility as a groom. Let us take on this responsibility, of course with your input. If you remain the sole coordinator and not include us (and this includes conversations with Lady Celebrate on the planning), we will feel like it is about us just showing up. Believe me, we don’t want to just show up, we want to step up and then we will get out of the way – and that means we want to contribute periodically in small parts to the planning process, not totally ingrained.
- Planning – to – Execution. Ok Brides, the date has been set, you know where you want to have the wedding and you and the groom know how much you want to budget. Here’s another shocker –, that’s all we need to know! Remember, we’re simple. We don’t mind leaving the primary responsibilities of colors, decorations, and arrangements to you; just give us small opportunities to contribute our thoughts. We know planning and execution are not only the most difficult, but also most stressful. We also know the unwanted guest of “Mr. Murphy” (what can go wrong will go wrong) will make his cameo appearance causing havoc in areas of the planning and execution totally unexpected, we like the role of identifying where Mr. Murphy will make those appearances. Think of us as the husband walking around the house with our tool belt on with nothing to fix. We want to fix something and Mr. Murphy gives us that opportunity. Bottom line, we want you to enjoy the full scope of wedding planning, but we don’t want you snapping at us either. Remember, emotion vs practicality. Your response to Mr. Murphy is an emotional one; we approach Mr. Murphy as competition we want to beat. Lady Celebrate with her vast level of expertise will help you plan from beginning to end, identify items and concerns you never would have thought or considered and she will help you take care of those stressful moments with vendors, wedding participants and guests. We don’t want you bringing that stress into our relationship.
From the instant you said yes to your man on bended knee, to the moment you walk down the aisle, to the time you exited that Uber or luxury car from your honeymoon, remember the groom approach will be one of practicality, logicality and simplicity – hiring a wedding planner is simple as it gets to us. Lady Celebrate can help you solidify what will be a lasting serene celebration for years to come for you, as well as your family and friends involved. Yes, as an experienced groom at many years of marriage, I’ve found the old adage rings true, “If Mama ain’t happy, nobody is happy.”
Thank you Mr. Celebrate on your insight from a groom’s perspective.